A beautiful post which clarifies the often misunderstood concept of what it means to forgive.
If you need an apology you don’t understand the basic premise of forgiveness. Granting forgiveness has nothing to do the the feelings or actions of the person you are forgiving. The offender is not required to be repentant , sorry or even aware that you have a problem. My grandmother painted us all a sign for our homes it reads “I, the Lord, will forgive whom I will forgive, but of you it is required to forgive all men.”
Forgiveness is not based on the offender. It is the choice of the offended to move forward without malice. Letting go of the anger can be private. You can make the decision, forgive the behavior and move on without ever speaking to, or about the situation. You see, forgiveness is simply removing the pain. You choose to heal. You don’t say what the offender did was right, okay, or allowable. You…
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